Has anyone noticed that the absolute HARDEST thing to do is make a male/female relationship work? Can I hear a collective shout from all around the world......? UGGHHHHH!!!!! To ease the pain for all of you men and women around the world let me give you some understanding. Like my Grandmother always used to say, "In all your getting, get understanding". So here we go.......
Back in the Garden of Eden, Man and Woman had it made. Man and Woman had no struggles and no relationship confrontations. That all changed when Adam and Eve disobeyed God and ate from the tree of knowledge. It was the FALL of MAN. In the Bible, one of God's punishments for Woman for disobeying him and eating from that tree is submission to Man. And in Genesis 3:16 God said to the Woman....
"Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."
And in God's punishment for Eve is the key to why we all have struggles in our relationships. In one fell swoop God made Man to rule over Woman and he made Woman's desire to be for her Man. Now the word "desire" doesn't mean only a want or a craving. The Bible uses that word "desire" as in to cleave to or to want to be like. In other words God cursed the Woman to be forever ruled over by the Man but be forever tormented by the craving yearning to be like the Man's role and rule over him instead of him ruling over her! Are you kidding me??? How in the world are we men and women supposed to have successful healthy relationships if we are doomed and cursed to forever be butting heads in a power struggle???
See this life that God created is a paradox. Anything worth getting is hard to get. Opposing forces work together all for good and the glory of God. In this particular paradox of Man and Woman's forever battle for rule over each other, God knew that this struggle would bring Mankind closer to Him because it would take the Man and Woman to submit to God's rules in order for their relationships to work and be successful. And God knew that the only way for Man and Woman to do this was to do so through their spirit and not through their flesh. For the flesh is weak but through the spirit Man can do all things. So the key to making our relationships work is for women and men to follow the rules as God laid out for us which is for man to rule over the woman and the ONLY way for the relationship to succeed is for the woman to submit to her man's rule over her. In Ephesians 5:21 the Bible says "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ." And in Ephesians 5:22-24 the Bible says "Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church sumits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything." It is futile to fight it women..... but you all will fight it. Fighting it is part of the same curse God put on women as punishment for eating from the forbidden tree of knowledge.
Aw heck no!!!! I can hear all you women around the world snapping your necks and smacking your lips in protest. Believe me I totally understand because in this day and age of radical liberal feminism and ever since the women's rights movement to push for man and women to be equal partners. But I am telling you like I know the sun rises that God's way is the ONLY way to make relationships work. God's way forces us to die of ourselves and our natural desires in order to follow His will. It takes work and sacrifice and sweat and tears.... things weren't this hard back in the good ol' days of the Garden of Eden. Man we had it made! But ever since those blissful days ended everything that is good is exremely hard to get. But God knew that Eve would fail and that Adam would fail. But it was all part of His plan to make Mankind seek Him and follow Him. God knew it would be hard for Man to grow closer to Him as long as Mankind was given everything and had all its needs provided for. God knew that the devil would tempt Eve to disobey Him and that Eve would tempt Adam and that they would fail and be driven out the garden. But it was all part of God's plan to make us grow closer to Him so that one day, as Believers, we will be back in a new Garden of Eden and that's heaven.
In order for our male/female relationships to succeed men have to have compassion for women's curse of internal struggle to rule over us. In having understanding and compassion of woman's battle, man will be better rulers by taking into consideration the nature of who they are ruling over. It will aid the man in being more patient and amicable in problem solving and dealing with woman's "attitude" and not take it personal when the woman is defiant and want to lead him and rule over him. And men, in order to expect Woman to let you rule over her, men must seek to be as righteous as they can. Men, the more righteous you are the more your women will want to let you rule over her.
But to ensure success in our relationships it definitely takes both the Man and the Woman doing their part. So in order for male/female relationships to succeed women have to understand that it is NOT a issue of Man being superior and Woman being inferior. Women, to deal with God's curse that He put on you, submission and dying of yourselves and dying of your natural desire to rule over your man is a must. It is extremely hard to do women......but everything worth getting is hard to get. And men.....it is extremely hard to be a compassionate ruler who can limit his authority in order to "ride out the storm" when the woman falls to her desires of flexing her want to rule over you....but it is required cause everything worth getting is hard to get.
"Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes."
"Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground...."